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Practice Gratitude: A Pathway to Healing from Narcissistic Trauma (card 23)

Surviving Narcissism Card Deck Practice Gratitude Card 23

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Healing From Trauma

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This is card 23 of 52 of the Surviving Narcissism Card Deck

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Gratitude may seem like a strange concept in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. When you’ve been subjected to manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, or the silent treatment, finding something to be thankful for might feel impossible. However, healing from trauma requires more than just acknowledging the pain (as discussed in Card 21 – Acknowledge the Pain); it involves reclaiming your personal power and shifting your mindset. Practicing gratitude can be one of the most transformative tools in your recovery.

Gratitude doesn’t erase the trauma you’ve experienced. Instead, it helps you shift your focus from what’s been taken from you to what you can cultivate within yourself. It fosters resilience, strength, and self-compassion. By actively practising gratitude, you reconnect with the positive aspects of your life, which can counterbalance the negativity that narcissistic abuse tends to cultivate.

In this post, we’ll explore how to implement gratitude into your healing journey, some connections to other key practices like journaling (card 22), and 101 ways to practice gratitude that you can incorporate into your daily life.

If you haven’t yet, you can get the full Surviving Narcissism Card Deck here – each card dives deep into the various manipulations and healing strategies to guide your recovery.

Why "Practice Gratitude" Matters in Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

When you’ve survived narcissistic abuse, your sense of reality has likely been distorted, your self-worth diminished, and your emotional reserves depleted. As outlined in Card 1 – Gaslighting, narcissists often manipulate you into questioning your perceptions. Gratitude helps ground you by focusing on what is real and positive in your life right now.

Gratitude is not about ignoring the trauma or pretending that everything is fine; it’s about shifting your perspective. After setting boundaries, as we discuss in Card 12 – Set Clear Boundaries, and reclaiming your time (refer to Card 11 – Reclaim Your Time), gratitude can be the next step in regaining control over your emotional well-being. It allows you to focus on the aspects of your life you can control, rather than what the narcissist tried to dominate.

How "Practice Gratitude" Supports Trauma Recovery

The experience of narcissistic abuse often leaves you feeling drained and disconnected from your true self.

In the same way that practising mindfulness (discussed in Card 15 – Practice Mindfulness) can help you regain emotional balance, practising gratitude encourages you to re-engage with positive emotions. It shifts the brain’s focus from a survival mindset—where everything feels threatening or bleak—to one of hope and possibility.

Gratitude also plays a role in rebuilding trust in yourself, as we covered in Card 17 – Rebuild Trust in Yourself. When you acknowledge the good in your life, you affirm that you are deserving of kindness, love, and care. Over time, this simple act helps to restore your self-esteem, which is often eroded by the blame-shifting and projection typical of narcissists (refer to Card 6 – Blame Shifting and Card 5 – Projection).

The Power of Journaling for Practising Gratitude

One powerful tool for cultivating gratitude is journaling, as highlighted in Card 22 – Journal Your Journey. Writing down what you are grateful for each day allows you to externalise positive thoughts, even on difficult days. It provides a tangible record of the good things in your life, which you can revisit when you feel overwhelmed by negative memories.

Adding “what I’m grateful for” into your journal might start small, especially in the beginning stages of healing. But with practice, you’ll find that even the smallest moments of joy—a kind word, a beautiful sunset, a quiet moment of peace—can anchor you in a positive mindset.

101 Simple Ways to Practice Gratitude

101 Ways to Practice Gratitude

  1. Keep a Gratitude Journal – Write down three things you’re grateful for each day.
  2. Morning Reflection – Start your day by thinking of something positive in your life.
  3. Thank Someone Personally – Express gratitude to someone who has made a positive impact.
  4. Write a Thank-You Note – Send a heartfelt note to someone you appreciate.
  5. Gratitude Jar – Fill a jar with small notes of what you’re grateful for each day.
  6. Gratitude Walk – Go for a walk and mentally list things you’re thankful for in nature.
  7. Compliment a Stranger – Make someone’s day by offering a genuine compliment.
  8. Appreciate Small Wins – Celebrate small achievements, both personal and professional.
  9. Gratitude Meditation – Dedicate time to meditate on the things you appreciate in your life.
  10. Create a Gratitude Collage – Cut pictures and words from magazines to represent what you’re grateful for.
  11. Say Thank You More Often – Get in the habit of verbally expressing thanks throughout your day.
  12. Grateful Conversations – Engage in discussions about the good things happening in your life.
  13. Gratitude Affirmations – Repeat affirmations focusing on gratitude, such as “I am grateful for my abundance.”
  14. Set Gratitude Intentions – Set a daily or weekly intention to focus on gratitude.
  15. Thank Your Body – Take time to appreciate all the ways your body supports you.
  16. Reflect on Past Hardships – Acknowledge how you’ve grown from difficult experiences.
  17. Gratitude in Adversity – Find one positive aspect in a difficult situation.
  18. Appreciate Your Home – Take time to be thankful for having a roof over your head.
  19. Celebrate Milestones – Honour birthdays, anniversaries, and other important life events with gratitude.
  20. Gratitude Vision Board – Create a board with things you are grateful for and things you hope to achieve.
  21. Thank Your Partner – Express gratitude for your partner’s presence and support in your life.
  22. Be Grateful for Learning – Appreciate the lessons you’ve learned through both successes and failures.
  23. Gratitude for Health – Acknowledge the aspects of your physical and mental health that are working well.
  24. Focus on What You Have – Avoid comparison and remind yourself of the abundance already in your life.
  25. Share Gratitude Online – Post something positive you’re grateful for on social media.
  26. Gratitude List for the Week – Write a list of everything you were grateful for at the end of the week.
  27. Make Time for Loved Ones – Spend time with family or friends and express your appreciation for them.
  28. Grateful for Your Pets – Appreciate the unconditional love and companionship pets offer.
  29. Focus on the Present Moment – Practice mindfulness (card 16) to appreciate where you are.
  30. Daily Gratitude Reminder – Set an alarm or notification to remind yourself to reflect on gratitude.
  31. Create a Gratitude Playlist – Make a playlist of songs that uplift you and make you feel grateful.
  32. Celebrate Failures – Find gratitude in lessons learned from mistakes or failures.
  33. Donate to Charity – Give to those in need as a way of showing gratitude for what you have.
  34. Reflect on Positive Relationships – Be grateful for the supportive people in your life.
  35. Appreciate Solitude – Take time to enjoy quiet moments by yourself and reflect on their value.
  36. Grateful for Work – Acknowledge the benefits of your work or career, even on tough days.
  37. Gratitude Journal for Kids – Encourage children to write down or share what they’re grateful for.
  38. Grateful for Nature – Take time to appreciate the natural beauty around you.
  39. Show Gratitude at Work – Thank your colleagues and employees for their support and efforts.
  40. Forgive with Gratitude – Release grudges by being thankful for the lessons learned from difficult experiences.
  41. Celebrate Small Moments – Notice and appreciate the small, often overlooked moments of joy in your day.
  42. Appreciate Your Past – Reflect on past memories that have brought you happiness.
  43. Grateful for Time – Appreciate the time you have each day to do meaningful activities.
  44. Gratitude Art – Express gratitude by drawing or painting things you’re thankful for.
  45. Grateful for Freedom – Appreciate the freedoms you have, big and small.
  46. Cook a Grateful Meal – Prepare a meal with love and reflect on the abundance that allows you to do so.
  47. Thank a Mentor – Reach out to someone who has guided you and thank them for their support.
  48. Thank Your Ancestors – Reflect on your lineage and express gratitude for previous generations.
  49. Grateful for Sleep – Appreciate the rest your body gets and how it helps you recover each day.
  50. Practice Gratitude Before Bed – End your day by reflecting on something that made you grateful.
  51. Celebrate a Random Day – Find reasons to celebrate an ordinary day and appreciate the simple things.
  52. Gratitude for Technology – Be thankful for the tech that makes your life easier and connects you with others.
  53. Smile More Often – Use smiling as a way to express gratitude for the present moment.
  54. Appreciate Books – Reflect on the wisdom, entertainment, or joy you’ve gained from reading books.
  55. Gratitude for Music – Appreciate the way music can uplift and inspire your emotions.
  56. Recognise Others’ Kindness – Acknowledge the small acts of kindness you receive from others.
  57. Grateful for Your Strengths – Take time to appreciate your unique talents and strengths.
  58. Gratitude for Food – Be mindful of the food you consume and the nourishment it provides.
  59. Notice Your Surroundings – Stop and observe the world around you, and feel grateful for your environment.
  60. Grateful for Yoga – Use my Chair Yoga Cards and be grateful for your body. 
  61. Grateful for Face Yoga – Use my Face Yoga Cards and be grateful for your face. 
  62. Celebrate Yourself – Acknowledge your own efforts and be grateful for your perseverance and dedication.
  63. Appreciate Challenges – Recognise that challenges help you grow and be thankful for the opportunity to learn.
  64. List Your Achievements – Write down your achievements and feel proud of how far you’ve come.
  65. Be Grateful for Laughter – Notice and appreciate moments of joy and laughter throughout your day.
  66. Thank Service Workers – Express gratitude to those who provide services in your community (e.g., postman).
  67. Grateful for Memories – Look back at fond memories and appreciate the joy they brought into your life.
  68. Reflect on Positive News – Focus on uplifting and positive news stories that show human kindness.
  69. Create a Gratitude Ritual – Add gratitude into your daily routines, such as during meals or meditation.
  70. Gratitude for Future Possibilities – Be thankful for the opportunities and possibilities that lie ahead.
  71. Thank Your Friends – Let your friends know how much they mean to you.
  72. Grateful for Creativity – Appreciate your creative ideas and how they enrich your life.
  73. Appreciate Humour – Be thankful for the ability to laugh, even in difficult times.
  74. Share Gratitude on Social Media – Use social platforms to spread positivity and gratitude.
  75. Gratitude for Clean Water – Recognise how access to clean water is a blessing.
  76. Appreciate Quiet Moments – Find gratitude in moments of peace and stillness.
  77. Write a Gratitude Poem – Create poetry or prose expressing the things you’re grateful for.
  78. Grateful for Comfort – Appreciate the comfort of your bed, your home, or a warm cup of tea.
  79. Appreciate Acts of Kindness – Acknowledge the kindness of strangers and how it enriches your day.
  80. Thank Yourself – Give yourself credit for showing up, making progress, and taking care of yourself.
  81. Be Grateful for Learning – Celebrate your ability to continue learning and growing each day.
  82. Gratitude for Resilience – Recognise your ability to overcome difficulties and express gratitude for it. 
  83. Gratitude Check-Ins – Throughout the day, take a moment to mentally check in with what you’re thankful for.
  84. Focus on Your Breath – Be grateful for each breath and the life force it gives you.
  85. Thank Your Teachers – Reach out to past or present teachers and express gratitude for their guidance.
  86. Grateful for Family – Reflect on the ways your family has supported and shaped you.
  87. Celebrate Your Individuality – Appreciate the qualities that make you unique and special.
  88. Appreciate Your Mind – Be thankful for your ability to think, reflect, and make decisions.
  89. Gratitude for Stability – Appreciate the stability in your life, be it financial, emotional, or physical.
  90. Thank Your Senses – Appreciate your senses – sight, smell, touch, taste, and hearing – for enriching your life.
  91. Create a Gratitude Schedule – Plan regular times to sit down and reflect on your blessings.
  92. Celebrate with Others – Share moments of gratitude and joy with friends and family.
  93. Thank a Colleague – Show appreciation for a coworker’s hard work and support.
  94. Be Grateful for Public Services – Recognise the value of public services like healthcare and education.
  95. Gratitude for Shelter – Acknowledge the safety and security of having a place to live.
  96. Appreciate Growth – Be thankful for the ways you’ve grown and evolved over time.
  97. Send Flowers – Give flowers to someone as an expression of gratitude.
  98. Celebrate Good Health – Acknowledge the health you have, even if it’s imperfect.
  99. Gratitude for Diversity – Appreciate the variety of cultures, ideas, and experiences that make life rich.
  100. Recognise Your Progress – Reflect on your personal growth and achievements.
  101. Thank the Earth – Express gratitude for the planet and the resources it provides.

Conclusion: Practice Gratitude as a Healing Tool

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a long, arduous process, but gratitude is one practice that can make the journey lighter. It won’t negate the harm caused by manipulative behaviours like gaslighting or projection, but it will provide a pathway towards self-compassion and emotional resilience. By embracing the habit of gratitude, you reclaim your ability to see the good in life, which is often overshadowed by the pain inflicted by the narcissist. Start small, perhaps by journaling or simply reflecting at the end of the day on one thing you’re grateful for—and watch your healing journey evolve.

If you want to explore these and other strategies in-depth, I encourage you to check out the Surviving Narcissism Card Deck for guidance on your journey.

Here’s a look at the full deck:

Narcissist Mind Games (10 Cards)

  1. Gaslighting
  2. Triangulation
  3. Love-Bombing
  4. Silent Treatment
  5. Projection
  6. Blame Shifting
  7. Future Faking
  8. Flying Monkeys
  9. Smear Campaigns
  10. Hoovering

Self-Care & Boundaries (10 Cards)

  1. Reclaim Your Time
  2. Set Clear Boundaries
  3. No Is a Complete Sentence
  4. Limit Contact
  5. Practice Mindfulness
  6. Healthy Detachment
  7. Rebuild Trust in Yourself
  8. Self-Compassion
  9. Guard Your Energy
  10. Disconnect Digitally

Healing from Trauma (10 Cards)

  1. Acknowledge the Pain
  2. Journal Your Journey
  3. Practice Gratitude
  4. Release the Guilt
  5. Therapy Is Strength
  6. Feel to Heal
  7. Reconnect with Your Body
  8. Affirm Your Worth
  9. Focus on the Present
  10. Time Heals

Recognising Red Flags (8 Cards)

  1. Lack of Empathy
  2. Extreme Charm
  3. Need for Control
  4. Quick Intimacy
  5. No Accountability
  6. Inconsistent Behaviour
  7. Lack of Boundaries
  8. Isolating You

Empowerment & Rebuilding (8 Cards)

  1. Reclaim Your Power
  2. Find Your Voice
  3. Celebrate Small Wins
  4. Visualise Your Future
  5. Rebuild Your Identity
  6. Surround Yourself with Positivity
  7. Redefine Your Worth
  8. Embrace Freedom

Support Systems & Moving Forward (6 Cards)

  1. Find Your Tribe
  2. Share Your Story
  3. Healthy Relationships Exist
  4. No Contact Is Power
  5. Stay Educated
  6. Forgive Yourself First

Click here to explore the Surviving Narcissism Card Deck in full and take the first step in your healing journey.

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