The Power of Forgiving Yourself First After Narcissistic Abuse (card 52)

Forgiveness can sometimes feel like an uphill battle, but it is essential to remember that every small step counts.

Here are 101 ways to forgive yourself: 

1. Acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to feel them.
2. Write a letter to yourself expressing understanding and compassion.
3. Speak to yourself in a kind and supportive manner.
4. Take a moment to breathe deeply and centre yourself.
5. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes.
6. List three things you’re proud of about yourself.
7. Reflect on a time when you overcame a challenge.
8. Practice mindfulness and stay present.
9. Engage in a physical activity that you enjoy.
10. Spend time in nature to reconnect with yourself.
11. Set a small, achievable goal for yourself.
12. Treat yourself to something nice.
13. Listen to uplifting music.
14. Read a self-help book that resonates with you.
15. Connect with someone who inspires you.
16. Find a hobby or activity that brings you joy.
17. Practice gratitude by listing things you are grateful for.
18. Meditate on self-forgiveness and compassion.
19. Visualise your ideal future and the life you want to lead.
20. Seek support from friends or loved ones.
21. Forgive others who may have hurt you as a practice in empathy.
22. Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations.
23. Use positive self-talk to reinforce your worth.
24. Engage in creative expression, like drawing or writing.
25. Make a vision board to represent your goals and aspirations.
26. Watch an inspiring movie or documentary.
27. Share your feelings with a trusted friend or therapist.
28. Reflect on what you have learned from your experiences.
29. Allow yourself to cry and release pent-up emotions.
30. Write a list of affirmations that resonate with you.
31. Practice deep relaxation techniques, like yoga or tai chi.
32. Cook a healthy meal for yourself.
33. Volunteer or help someone in need to shift your focus.
34. Create a self-care routine that prioritises your well-being.
35. Let go of perfectionism; embrace being human.
36. Set reminders on your phone to practice self-compassion.
37. Attend a workshop or seminar on self-improvement.
38. Participate in a support group focused on healing.
39. Keep a journal to document your feelings and progress.
40. Develop a mantra that you can repeat during difficult moments.
41. Learn something new to cultivate a sense of achievement.
42. Disconnect from social media to focus on yourself.
43. Write down your regrets and let them go symbolically.
44. Spend time with animals or pets for comfort.
45. Practice positive visualisation techniques.
46. Limit exposure to negative influences in your life.
47. Create a personal retreat at home for reflection.
48. Explore new places to gain fresh perspectives.
49. Attend a yoga or meditation class for relaxation.
50. Share your story with others who may benefit from it.
51. Reflect on the qualities you admire in others.
52. Commit to a daily self-compassion practice.
53. Take a break from responsibilities to recharge.
54. Use aromatherapy or essential oils to create a calming environment.
55. Engage in self-reflection through writing prompts.
56. Make a list of things that make you happy.
57. Focus on your strengths and what makes you unique.
58. Spend time with positive, uplifting people.
59. Create a routine that includes time for self-care.
60. Take a moment to appreciate your progress, no matter how small.
61. Reflect on how far you’ve come in your healing journey.
62. Write down affirmations and read them daily.
63. Watch motivational TED talks or podcasts.
64. Create a gratitude jar and fill it with positive notes.
65. Allow yourself to enjoy the little things in life.
66. Practice forgiveness meditation.
67. Engage in self-care activities like bubble baths or pampering.
68. Celebrate small achievements with a reward.
69. Make a list of things you’d like to let go of.
70. Find comfort in rituals that bring you peace.
71. Commit to being your own best friend.
72. Attend therapy or counselling sessions regularly.
73. Engage in positive affirmations while looking in the mirror.
74. Join a book club focused on personal growth.
75. Create a playlist of songs that lift your spirits.
76. Challenge yourself to do something outside your comfort zone.
77. Revisit memories that bring you joy and happiness.
78. Write a list of things you are capable of achieving.
79. Reflect on past moments of strength and resilience.
80. Share your journey with others to inspire them.
81. Create a self-acceptance statement to remind yourself of your worth.
82. Take part in mindfulness activities like nature walks.
83. Focus on progress, not perfection.
84. Create a mantra for self-forgiveness.
85. Write down your feelings and thoughts in a journal.
86. Celebrate the end of a challenging chapter in your life.
87. Reflect on what you wish you had done differently and learn from it.
88. Limit your exposure to negative news and media.
89. Embrace the imperfections that make you human.
90. Find a creative outlet for self-expression.
91. Attend workshops or retreats focused on self-discovery.
92. Reconnect with old friends who uplift and inspire you.
93. Spend time alone doing activities you love.
94. Focus on your breath to centre yourself.
95. Allow yourself to feel proud of your progress.
96. Create a vision for your future self.
97. Engage in random acts of kindness for yourself and others.
98. Take the time to reflect on your journey in a meaningful way.
99. Develop a mantra that reinforces your worthiness of love.
100. Take a moment to simply be, without pressure or expectations.
101. Trust the process of healing and forgive yourself for being human.